First off, I want to say I noticed something interesting about people who hang around on blogs. They have agendas. If you read the blogs and the comments, after awhile, you will notice that certain people will always make comments related to their pet peeves, rather than the actual topics that are being discussed. People are so intent on their little agendas, whether it is being dissatisfied with their communities (Lakewood, Chassidish etc.) lack of women's shiurim, blah blah blah, that they dont have much of a sense of humor left. Also, there is a big emphasis and pride on being "open minded". Like that is the ultimate thing to strive for. In my opinion, one should only be open minded when judging others. When it comes to yourself, you should be close minded. you ask youself "is this right, based on how I was raised/Torah law / behavior appropriate for a jew/ chilul hashem?" and if the answer is no, dont do it. Dont start being open minded.