Having kids is like going to Great Adventures.
You wait on line for an hour and a half, for a ride that lasts two minutes.
When you have kids, most of the time you are dealing with the tough stuff and every once in a while you have two minutes of nachas.
While this sounds like one of those sayings that get emailed around, it was actually thought up by yours truly.
I sometimes think about this, especially when I am having a rough time with the kids and tend to get down in the dumps about my (not) success.
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If you think about it for real, you will see that the amount of nachas is far more than just an occasional 2 minutes! Count your blessings ma'am!
MRs. Mega ...I am sure the family on Pine Park that is sitting shiva for a 15 yr old son, would gladly trade places with you in a sec...
I think it's more like the roller coaster at Great Adventures.. You have to learn how to enjoy the slow ride up the incline as well as the thrill of the free fall...
Make the 'tough stuff' part of the nachas.. understand that there won't be any nachas, if you dont deal (in a calm way) with the tough stuff each day.
Every part of parenting should be a joy... an anticipation for the thrill of the eventual nachas you (and the rest of k'lall yisroel) will get from your kids.
HEY you lakewood people - back off. dont jump on my back. That may well be part of the "Lakewood problem"-- people like you too ready to give mussar, instead of words of encouragement like our friend almost frei, who has the right idea.
All I was saying is that parenting can be very frustrating, and never once did i say I dont appreciate having the kids. After all, the frustrating wait on line does not stop people from going to Great Adventures, does it? People are going in droves, because ultimately the experience is worth it to them.
So because I was having a frustrating day, and I vented a little (what are blogs for?) you get on my case. NICE.
mega...
I find with my kids...I have 1 really tough kid...and although my otyher kids might give me alot more nachas then the tough one gives me grief..but it sure feels like..the grief is all I'm dealing with..
But like I alluded to in my Puppeteer post parenting is not about "shepping nachas"..its not a show for you to enjoy..thats secondary..
Its about responsibility and doing the right thing..so hang in there..
Mega- you took my comment the wrong way! I didn't mean to criticize or give you mussar, god forbid. I was just putting a positive spin on a frustrating topic, which we all encounter daily as we raise our kinderlach! Good luck. I am sure you are a great mother!
Way to kiss up LV... lol..
Relax,mega. I thought you knew me by now. Im wasnt trying to slam you, just giving the other side of the coin.
Blogs are also about getting you to think. Lakewood ladies thinking, now thats a radical concept..
semgirl- pretty good kiss up yourself! lol
mega- You're all kissed up now! :-)
let me go wipe off the lipstick marks...
I'm feeling the love...
Okay you're all forgiven.
Just wanted to mention that one of the main points of my life is I try to be happy with what I have. If I start thinking I need a bigger house or another bathroom, I remind myself that my grandmother had to go outside.
If I get annoyed at the piles of laundry I remind myself about my grandmother scrubbing clothes by hand at the river and so on.
I have a very good friend who has handicapped children and talking to her always puts me in a good perspective. Looking at someone who has less than you (b'gashmius) is the best way to stay content.
but david is right - we dont have kids so that we can have nachas.
That being said, everyone knows that when a kid turns out screwy or not frum or dysfunctional, the mother is always blamed. so that is kind of a lousy position to be in.
Just for the record-I don't wear lipstick!!!!! ;-)
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